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Tso Tus Hlub Tseg.............

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

why you gotta ask such complicated questions ?????

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

TSD,

koj hais tso no es tso li cas nas lov?......twb yuav tso nws es tseem mab mam ntxias thiab?.....

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

Tubsiabdawb'kuv los xav paub kawg thiab tiag. :ceb85dec: :ceb85dec:

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

TubSiab Dawb, kuv li kuv yog tus neeg nyiam hais ncaj qas, yog hnub twg tsi muaj txoj kev sov siab, txoj kev hlub mus tsi raws siav xav lawm ces kuv give him/her all the reason..., ces the rest yog nws li kev txiav txim siab lawm xwb tiag...

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why you gotta ask such complicated questions ?????

You gotta face reality girl...it's going to smack you in the face sometimes. It's unavoidable for all of us. So what's your technique?

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TSD,

koj hais tso no es tso li cas nas lov?......twb yuav tso nws es tseem mab mam ntxias thiab?.....

Hais txog hluasnkauj hluasnraug sib tso lossis niamtxiv sib tso ntag hos. Just wanna know the different methods xwb and it's just a topic.

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Tubsiabdawb'kuv los xav paub kawg thiab tiag. :ceb85dec: :ceb85dec:

Es bro, koj tsis muaj dabtsi share li los? Muab mentsis opinion thiab...there's no right or wrong answer.

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TubSiab Dawb, kuv li kuv yog tus neeg nyiam hais ncaj qas, yog hnub twg tsi muaj txoj kev sov siab, txoj kev hlub mus tsi raws siav xav lawm ces kuv give him/her all the reason..., ces the rest yog nws li kev txiav txim siab lawm xwb tiag...

Muab hais los koj kuj yog ib tus neeg zoo heev li. First you give him all the reasons and then tseem cia nws yog tus txiav txim thiab. Yog nws txiav txim tsis kam los ntshe koj yuav end up ...yuav tau hlub nws mus ntxiv li thiab lau.

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

Cias hnub twg txog kiag hnub ntawv thiab yog nhub ntawv lawm mam qhias rau nej paub

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Muab hais los koj kuj yog ib tus neeg zoo heev li. First you give him all the reasons and then tseem cia nws yog tus txiav txim thiab. Yog nws txiav txim tsis kam los ntshe koj yuav end up ...yuav tau hlub nws mus ntxiv li thiab lau.

Yes, yog nws kam hloov ces yuav tau ntseeg nws ib zaum ntxiv thiab los mas hahahahaha

Nej txiv neej ses yog thaum nej hais tias DONE ses nej yeej DONE li lawm laiv yod... :4519626a::efb50fe2:

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nyias loj loj nyias lawm. hais li qhov muaj...yuav tso ces, tso kiag xwb. txhob ntxias. yog yus hlub tsis taus nws lawm, txhob nyob ua rau yus ntxhov siab. yus lub siab tsis muaj qhov hlub nws lawm, yus tau hais ncaj qhas rau nws paub, kom txhob lig koj thiab lig nws lub neej. tso ces tso kiag xwb. kom nws tib teg tu siab rau yus, es nws thiaj move on tau. yog yuav ntxias nws, ces tseem hajyam mob nws thiab mob yus xwb.

here is my story:

Kuv tus last ex, wb sib tso on good terms. As he understood my feelings. Reason being, I couldn't live up to his standards. I did not want to be someone who I am not. He thought he could change me. Sure enough, he was able to change me but I was not happy. There were many things that I lacked. He was a very patient man, very intelligent, he was willing to be there to support me. It got to the point where I was not satisfied with myself being in the relationship. And up until that point, I simply said to myself, I cannot possibly continue to be this person he turned me into. When I am with family and friends, I am carefree and i am myself. When I was with him, it felt like walking on fragile glass. I do not deserve him as I was playing a character that I was not. He was the perfect guy that every woman dreamt for. A good job, Victoria Secret gifts (hehehehe), loves high end dining and much more. Sadly, not made for me. As my friend once said to me, "Hmoov tag lawm os, koj nas."

Well, long story short, I told him how I felt about "US" and who I really am. So we agreed and remain friends. After all said and done, we were officially friends. When he came into town, he called me and we met up at Caribou Coffee, had coffee and hung out. Nothing more, nothing less. When he moved into town a year after our official break up. I did not want to fall back into the trap and so I avoided his invitations as much as possible. It has been 4 years now....and I am very content with where I am at. I am very proud of myself with the decision I made. Have no regrets whatsoever.

Moral of this story: Be honest to yourself. Everything happens for a reason. It's change me to be honest to myself to let go what is not mines. As others need it more than me.

Hehehehehe..."Hmoov tag lawm os, koj na"...hehehheheheh Muaj tej txhia kuj envy yus thiab tos lawv hais li ntawd na yom. Tiamsis muaj tej txhia kuj hais tias.."muaj hmoo kawg kuv khiav dim nws lawm". My reason for saying that is that some people had been lured into a relationship where there's no completion. Completion meaning...Living life at a certain standard without happiness. Always feeling tense when you're around each other, feeling like you have to put-out 100% of the time,feeling like you have to put yourself in a position where you're not comfortable to be comfortable.

I see SOME hmong men dressing like they're at work or at the office...but actually in their own home. Doing nothing but still dress like that. Always ready for a visitor? for something or someone unexpected? There is nothing wrong with that....too uptight for me.

I just like to stay up late, wake up late,in my short or my boxer, don't even bother mowing the lawn until late in the afternoon. Instead of wearing double layers of clothing, i prefer taking of my shirt ..wearing nothing or only my tank top. I like to losen up my life on a daily basis..not necessarily or fall on the lazy side though. My woman? same thing. She can change the oil on my car,play soccer with me,work the grill and just be herself in my boxer at times.

Yog li no, i would never hurt her. Kuv mam cia nws hurt kuv xwb vim hais tias I THINK us men can handle emotional break-downs a little better....heheheheh

Thanks for sharing your story though...appreciate that.

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Cias hnub twg txog kiag hnub ntawv thiab yog nhub ntawv lawm mam qhias rau nej paub

Es tsis piav txog tus txiv los kuj piav txog tus hlub yav tas los los pob....don't tell me there was none in the past?

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Yes, yog nws kam hloov ces yuav tau ntseeg nws ib zaum ntxiv thiab los mas hahahahaha

Nej txiv neej ses yog thaum nej hais tias DONE ses nej yeej DONE li lawm laiv yod... :4519626a::efb50fe2:

Yep....peb cov "txivneejyawg" ces thaum hais tias done no ces yeej done tiag tiag ov. Txhob lam sim nawb...hehehehe

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Yep....peb cov "txivneejyawg" ces thaum hais tias done no ces yeej done tiag tiag ov. Txhob lam sim nawb...hehehehe

aws, kuv ntseeg li mas, es yuav tsi sim tabsis to nws hais rau yus tso mam li hais rau nws tias kuv to los lus no thiab no kom nws tuag kiag xwb tiag... hahahaha

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Es tsis piav txog tus txiv los kuj piav txog tus hlub yav tas los los pob....don't tell me there was none in the past?

Tus hlub yav tas yeej tsis muaj nes...vim hlub ib leeg yuav tib tug xwb ces twb tsis tau tso li nes...yuav paub piav qhov twg tuaj mas.

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

kuv li mas tso los kuv tsis tso, hais los kuv tsis hais li nawb. kuv tsuas hais rau nws tias sib yuav tau lawm

ces sib hlub kom kawg xwb...

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

Yog kuv tso nws no kuv yuav hais tias, "Honey, wb txoj kev hlub tsis muaj ntxiv, nws tu hnub no vim kuv tsis hlub koj lawm. Koj mam mus nrhiav dua koj lub neej tshiab. Kuv mus lawm."

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Hehehehehe..."Hmoov tag lawm os, koj na"...hehehheheheh Muaj tej txhia kuj envy yus thiab tos lawv hais li ntawd na yom. Tiamsis muaj tej txhia kuj hais tias.."muaj hmoo kawg kuv khiav dim nws lawm". My reason for saying that is that some people had been lured into a relationship where there's no completion. Completion meaning...Living life at a certain standard without happiness. Always feeling tense when you're around each other, feeling like you have to put-out 100% of the time,feeling like you have to put yourself in a position where you're not comfortable to be comfortable.

I see SOME hmong men dressing like they're at work or at the office...but actually in their own home. Doing nothing but still dress like that. Always ready for a visitor? for something or someone unexpected? There is nothing wrong with that....too uptight for me.

I just like to stay up late, wake up late,in my short or my boxer, don't even bother mowing the lawn until late in the afternoon. Instead of wearing double layers of clothing, i prefer taking of my shirt ..wearing nothing or only my tank top. I like to losen up my life on a daily basis..not necessarily or fall on the lazy side though. My woman? same thing. She can change the oil on my car,play soccer with me,work the grill and just be herself in my boxer at times.

Yog li no, i would never hurt her. Kuv mam cia nws hurt kuv xwb vim hais tias I THINK us men can handle emotional break-downs a little better....heheheheh

Thanks for sharing your story though...appreciate that.

Yog yuav hais tias "muaj hmoov thiaj khiav dim nws"....hmmmm.....kuj tsis yog thiab tiag. kuv hais mas, kuv yuav hais tias, "Muaj hmoov ntsib nws, kuv thiaj rov tig pom kuv txoj qhov phem" Yog vim li cas kuv hais li.....rau qhov.... I got too comfortable -----waaaaay too comfortable and forgot who i really was. And it seemed like I needed him to be there and do this and that - needed him to make decisions for me. Don't get this wrong, he never controlled me or my life. I was always receiving yet gave nothing back. I was living two different lives....When we were together, i was someone else. i lived in a fairy tale life for nearly 3 years...until one day, it dawned on me that i needed to stop living 2 lives.....certainly, I do not deserve him at all. Its like he gave me 90% and i contributed the 10%.

He refuses to eat pork and chicken, fried foods, is not too fond of rice! WTF, i love rice. I enjoy my pork and intestines....i enjoy #1 combo meals from Mickey D's over ordering wine with his meal. He spends benjamins while im spending washingtons. He enjoys the high end of life, while Im walking thru the aisles of walmart and target. Hence, his standards are too much for me to handle. i would much prefer the typical local theatre over an opera show, which i cannot even understand a single word they are saying!

and then.....there is another one that i also let go due to the fact that he only gave 10% and i put in 90%....but thats another one for later.....LOL....

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Tus hlub yav tas yeej tsis muaj nes...vim hlub ib leeg yuav tib tug xwb ces twb tsis tau tso li nes...yuav paub piav qhov twg tuaj mas.

mother aj, ntawm koj nyob kod sov licas thiab snow yaj tas lawm los tsis tau os?

zoo li ntawm koj kod sov heev lawm tsis sub? ntawm kuv nyob no yog 50 .55 degree

snow yaj tsis tau tas thiab os...

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Yog kuv tso nws no kuv yuav hais tias, "Honey, wb txoj kev hlub tsis muaj ntxiv, nws tu hnub no vim kuv tsis hlub koj lawm. Koj mam mus nrhiav dua koj lub neej tshiab. Kuv mus lawm."

tos covlaus pheej qhia peb cov tub tias ceebfaj ov, yus tus pojniam tua tau yus povtseg/yog yus tus yeebncuab no

yeej muaj tseeb, covpojniam feemcoob hais li koj hais ntau xwb, thaum hlub mas nej hlub kawg, tiamsis nej muaj

ib lub mavtais nyob tob heev, hehehehe, tso dag kom sib totaub xwb nawb...

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mother aj, ntawm koj nyob kod sov licas thiab snow yaj tas lawm los tsis tau os?

zoo li ntawm koj kod sov heev lawm tsis sub? ntawm kuv nyob no yog 50 .55 degree

snow yaj tsis tau tas thiab os...

nyob zoo father, ntawm kuv nyob snow twb yaj tas ntev lawm mas... hnub no nyaj sov txog 60 tab mas tsam no ntuj ntxoov lawm xyov yuav los nag los yog licas laus.

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TSD,

koj hais tso no es tso li cas nas lov?......twb yuav tso nws es tseem mab mam ntxias thiab?.....

Tso li koj tso kuv xwb mas. TSD xav tso nws tus hlub thiab. hehehehehehehe.

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Yog koj yuav tso koj tus hlub...koj yuav tso li cas? koj yuav hais li cas rau nws? koj yog hom es hais yam tsis ntshai nws tu siab kiag li los...koj yog cov uas mab mam ntxias?

Kuv ciali ploj lawm ntsiag moo to xwb... kuv yog hom neeg ntawd...

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tos covlaus pheej qhia peb cov tub tias ceebfaj ov, yus tus pojniam tua tau yus povtseg/yog yus tus yeebncuab no

yeej muaj tseeb, covpojniam feemcoob hais li koj hais ntau xwb, thaum hlub mas nej hlub kawg, tiamsis nej muaj

ib lub mavtais nyob tob heev, hehehehe, tso dag kom sib totaub xwb nawb...

Kuv paub tias koj hais lus tso dag xwb tabsi yog koj muab xav los no nws kuj muaj tiag2 thiab hos. Yog thaum yus tsis hlub nws lawm ces yus kuj qhia nws tias kev hlub tu lawm es cia nyias mus nyias lawm xwb no. Qhov no yeej tsis yog pojniam thiaj li coj li no xwb. Txawm yog pojniam/txivneej los thaum yus tsis hlub nws lawm yeej coj ib yam nkaus li os.

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